[release-1.25] chore: fix gRPC-Go HTTP/2 Rapid Reset vulnerability

[feiskyer]

This is a partial cherry-pick of #4847

fix gRPC-Go HTTP/2 Rapid Reset vulnerability

Notes:

• because of circular dependencies from k8s.io/apiserver and opentelemetry, the OpenTelemetry-Go Contrib CVE-2023-45142 fixes couldn't be updated in this release version.
• Kubernetes project has decided not to cherry-pick this as well because it is not using the impacted files/methods:

Good news is the files/methods in question in the PR are NOT in our vendor/ directory. Though the advisory claims affected program has to use otelhttp.NewHandler wrapper (which we do have reference of! here) we do not have/use otelhttp metrics related code. So we are not affected AFAICT.

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[feiskyer]

/kind cleanup

[MartinForReal]

/lgtm

[feiskyer]

As described above, trivy scanning failure is expected due to unable bump opentelemetry version.